I came across this saying on Jane’s Modern Pilgrim blog. Her entire post raises a lot of good points and I want to bring a few of them here to expand on them.
The concept of friendship is an interesting one. Some people use the word cautiously, naming a handful of people friend. Some throw it around with abandon prefacing dozens of people with “my friend”. MySpace and Facebook have given people access to hundreds and thousands of friends. On our hero’s journeys though, which of these friends are going to truly be there to help us through our trials and tribulations? I watched an interview with three friends yesterday. They were the successful Mexican directors, Alfonso Cuarón, Guillermo del Toro, and Alejandro González Iñárritu. Cuarón said true friends are able to forgive success, which echoes Jane’s comments. So, who are the real friends on your journey?
The other concept is about trust and giving it to only those who deserve it after showing it over time. Seeing the best in people does not mean trusting them with your favourite book, as Jane says. However, treating them well and seeing the best in them is exactly what makes people start wanting you to trust them. They start behaving in ways that deserve trust. It is a very interesting process. I saw that over the last few years I was at my last job. The more you act to have people want be trusted by you, the larger your circle of trust will be. It’s a simple cause and effect process, but it takes time.